3 Tips For How To Make Halloween Not-So-Scary!

3 Tips For How To Make Halloween Not-So-Scary!

While Halloween is a fun time for kids of all ages, it can also be a little scary at times, when surrounded by things like spiders, ghosts or scary masks! So I asked my son what advice he would give to kids who are afraid. His responses were so good I asked if he wanted to go on the show with me. Since it was Fall Break and he was off school that day, he said yes. It was a great experience for us and we’d like to share it with you! Here’s The Tips: Look away from the things that scare you. Focus on things that make you feel better and be okay with skipping houses that make you feel uncomfortable. Go with someone you trust. It’s ok to squeeze your sibling’s/parents hand if you need a little reassurance. Distract yourself with tapping. Tapping your hand on your leg helps your brain focus on that sensation rather than focusing only on the thing that’s scary. It also helps you discreetly keep moving because if you stand still, it feels like something is going to jump out at...
5 Lessons I Learned From Being A Dad!

5 Lessons I Learned From Being A Dad!

Happy Fathers Day! Here’s some “tough love” advice I’ve learned from being a dad for the last 11 years. I wish I could say I knew all this from the beginning, but I didn’t. It took a lot of hard work on my end to break the bad habits I didn’t even realize I had! It also took an incredible amount of love, patience, and support from my extraordinary wife, Stacey. All the inner struggles and uncomfortable feelings I went through (swallowing my pride, keeping my Ego in check, not making excuses, etc.) were worth it. I’ve got two amazing kids who will grow up to contribute in big ways because they believe they can! Here’s a few lessons I learned. Perhaps it will help you. If you’re already doing this, good for you! If not, start today. You’ll be glad you did and so will your family! Avoid teasing your kid(s). I grew up in a family that lovingly teased each other. The problem is even though you might think you’re being funny, the sarcasm can really hurt your child’s feelings. I’ve coached clients who struggled most of their lives due to hurtful words and comments made by parents and grandparents. Life is tough enough. They don’t need you to “toughen them up.” They need to know you are their biggest fan! Show your kid(s) lots of affection. A hug, pat on the back, high-five, stopping everything you’re doing to make eye-contact for a few minutes, these are all non-verbal cues that let your child know s/he is important to you! Make sure they know every day that...
How To Eliminate Your Kid’s Halloween Fears!

How To Eliminate Your Kid’s Halloween Fears!

Tim Shurr, MA shares “3 Tips For How To Help Your Child Triumph Over Their Fears” This Halloween.   1. Validate their fear instead of minimizing it. Rather than, “It’s just a mask” be compassionate and say, “Yes, that does look scary even though its just made of plastic. Children often do not possess the mental capacity to understand all the scary images they see. 2. Get a superhero or princess costume that gives “special powers.” Your child’s wonderful imagination is one of the reasons for being afraid. We tend to make things even scarier than they really are. Suggest to your child that when s/he wears the costume, they will immediately feel more brave. You, as the main role model in their life, can also act out sending freeze rays, casting magic spells, or surrounding yourself in a protective light. When your child sees you feeling confident, taking charge, and acting brave, they will often follow suit! 3. Make the images seem less spooky. Ask your child how to make the thing that frightens them more silly. My 7 yr old suggested putting big mustaches on everything. My 10 yr old doesn’t like spiders. He said, “I imagine putting them on a rocket and sending them into the sun. It makes me feel better, but I still don’t like them.” Visit IndyHypnosis.com for more ideas or call (317)...
Trouble Getting Your Kids To Sleep At Night?

Trouble Getting Your Kids To Sleep At Night?

1. Just like adults, kids can have trouble shutting their brains off for the night. Instead of increasing that anxiety by insisting it’s time to sleep, consider focusing more on the idea of relaxation and calming your child’s body down. 2. Two hours prior to bedtime, turn off TV’s and computers, dim the lights, and quiet things down. Develop a routine of baths and story time so kids get used to what’s next, sleeping. 3. If younger kids have fears, give them “Monster Spray,” a flash light, or a large stuffed animal to stand guard. For older kids, using a meditation or self-hypnosis CD to calm the mind and body can be of great help. Actually, instead of “Monster spray,” I recommend creating “Happy, Safe Spray.” Ask your child where s/he wants you to spray it. S/He will likely say, “Spray the whole room!” This puts the focus on feeling safe and happy. After all, if you say, “Don’t think of monsters, that’s exactly what they will think about… We recommend the “Sound Sleep” program at indyhypnosis.com for kids of all ages (and their...